So here's the deal....Ms Exotic had been out of town for a couple of days....I am missing her....The weather is miserable, cold and windy so I don't feel up to doing anything outside....There is much I should be doing around the house, but honestly I just am not in the mood....So my mind has been rambling and I realized I haven't updated my blog for a while....Thus, I thought I might write some of these ramblings down and if they aren't too ridiculous (Ms Exotic will be the judge of that) post them.
Subsexual????
Is submissiveness another form of sexuality? There are heterosexuals, homosexuals, bisexuals, transsexuals,etc. Why not subsexuals? My submissiveness is such a huge part of my sexuality it really cannot be separated from it. I would have sex with a man if my wife wished me to, in fact I would find it quite exciting. Does that make me bisexual; or am I subsexual? I have no desire to have sex with a man without my wife involved in some way, but throw a little D/s into the mix, with my wife being the "D", and I am quite excited by the prospect. I am not sure why I have been thinking about this so much, since I am somewhat opposed to labels as a general rule, I must be really bored.
Is kink addictive?
I suppose I could do a little research on this, there may have been studies looking into this, but I am feeling too lazy so I will just sit here and ponder. From my own experience I think it may be. In fact I may be experiencing a bit of "kink withdrawl" right now due to Ms Exotic's absence, perhaps that is the reason for these musings. I would hate to return to a completely vanilla sex life, I do not think I would find it fulfilling now. I think that Ms Exotic feels the same way, kink seems to have become quite important to her as well. I suppose that, like a smoker, we could quit but we would always be desirous of another cigarette.
Domestic discipline keeping the submissive flame burning:
I am sure that the importance of domestic discipline varies from couple to couple, but for me I think it is very important. That submissive fire that burns inside me does ebb and flow. At times it is a raging inferno, occasionally it is a tiny glowing spark. When that flame begins to die down I need it fanned and one of the best ways to do that is through discipline. Of course discipline is not the only way, but it is a lovely way as far as I am concerned. Fortunately for me Ms Exotic fans my flame like no woman I have ever known, but still life gets in the way at times. I fantasize about being in a life situation where Ms Exotic could paddle my behind whenever I stepped out of line. Of course our life is not that way, but a sub can dream can't he?
Worshiping the Goddess keeping the Domme fires burning:
This is as, or more, important as keeping those sub fires burning and something I am occasionally (okay maybe to often to just say occasionally) guilty of failing at. I don't just mean oral worship, though that can certainly be a part of it, but I mean treating her like your queen. I have often given men, who want to get their wives interested in a FLR, the advice to treat her like a queen and eventually she will begin to act like one. Again life often gets in the way, but it is so important to treat our wives like queens, goddesses, and dommes, if that is what we wish them to be.
Well Ms Exotic will be home soon (hooray!) so I had better send this to her email for approval to post, and figure out what I am making for dinner.
